A 30-year-old woman taking a bit of control over her own happiness and sharing her experience.

Happiness by the Horns

So, we’re at the 6-month mark in this weird COVID world we find ourselves in and I don’t know how happy I am about it at all. It doesn’t feel very much like there is a light at the end of the tunnel and as much as we call this our ‘new normal’, nothing feels about it feels ‘normal’.

The first 6 months have been very much about understanding and adjusting, and man has it needed adjustment. Recently, I started to feel like we were creeping out of the darkness and I was hopeful, itching to get back to the office and feel a bit of freedom; then Boris announces that restrictions are going to tighten and it’s going to be for at least another 6 months… ok… sit back down, close the door, seat belt back on. So here’s the question – if I’m going to spend the next 6 months as I have my last, am I happy continuing in the same way? Here’s the answer – no.


 Since March, because of the mess we have all been in, I have spent a lot of time focusing on being understanding and patient when it comes to my mental health, giving myself a break and forgiving myself for not doing much when it comes to exercise or creativity. And that self-love will continue, but perhaps I need to take a bit of control back and be proactive when it comes to my happiness and wellbeing, instead of being as reactive and passive as I have been. To summarise – I’m not happy and I’m going to do something about it!

There are steps that I naturally take to support good mental health – eating well most of the time, checking-in with my friends and support network, allowing myself the rest I need both physically with baths and bed, but also by binge-watching vampire trash to numb my mind when it’s racing too fast. So the thing I need to do, I KNOW I need to do but I don’t WANT to do is… exercise.

It is scientifically proven to help mental health in a big way but I just CAN’T BE BOTHERED SO NO. But this is, I feel, the only thing left for me to try that will more than likely really help.


SO, now we’re getting to the point of this post – I joined the gym. I, Charley Benns, joined the flippin’ gym for the first time since 2013 and I want to share the impact regular exercise has on me. I’m going to be completely open and honest about how often I go and how I feel before and after, as well as how I feel my general state of mind as a result of making this change.

What this is NOT:

  • I will not be talking about fitness or weight-loss
  • I will not be giving tips on exercise or how to do anything in the gym
  • I will not be promoting any place or product

I’ll document this all on IntaStories so follow @LifeatKGH on Instagram to see if the tales are true and exercise really is one of the key ingredients to supporting mental health.

This is simply a 30-year-old woman who has not done regular exercise for about 7 years taking a bit of control over her own happiness and sharing her experience.

Here goes!!